Friendship

Adithya Sasikala

Hey guys,

Today I wanted to ask you something different. What according to you is friendship? How do you define it?

I don’t socialize much. If I see a crowd or something first thing I do is avoid it. I used to hate first day at school and college etc. This was a problem because as a result of this behavior I didn’t make much friends. It takes about 3 months for me to actually accept a person to be my friend and in some cases it could take more time. Now I’m actually coming out of my shell and trying to be more social and accepting and stuff. Still I think I’m not getting any better. I have about 1 or 2 friends now.

So after a long time I made a new friend a couple of months ago. I dedicated a lot of my time for this person because I thought if I want a friend I should also try. So things were going fine I had a friend and I was a friend to someone and things were different, I must agree it felt good. But then one day I received a message from my friend and it read I have my exam in about 3 months so I won’t be able to talk to you till it’s over, So bye meet you after four months. I was like what!!!!! Friendship! now this is more different than what I thought.

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So guys that was one of my weird experience at friendship. Do you have any such weird experience. And don’t forget to answer the above questions. I’m eagerly waiting for your answers.

155 thoughts on “Friendship”

  2. Friendship to me is one where I am free from spiralling into my own emotions. That feeling lasted only 4 years in my college. It’s been three years since graduation, I haven’t had that peace since then . While everybody made new friends in their career and studies, I’m still here finding it hard to even say a hi back to people… I just miss my college 😦

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  3. I feel sad for you but also I believe that socialising yes is important and friendship according to me is understanding between two individuals as in how far they can understand each other and co-operate with each other. I believe that if you want to make real friends and not reel friends then its a two way thing if you’re giving effort and the other person is not then it doesn’t work out and vice-a-versa. I am sure a whole bunch of honest friends awaits you at the door.

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    1. Thank you Piyush. You needn’t be sorry for me I’m fine, it’s just that after a lot of years I tried to make a new friend and this is how it went down. I do have a few friends and I’m very happy with them. But I was just wondering what exactly is friendship.

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  4. Actually this happen same to me I even wrote blog on starting days of college. Being introvert it is really difficult to make new friends. But at the end friend is like an umbrella in the rain of sadness☺️

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  5. Truly written by you . Convenience is more often than not a precursor to friendship. Merely tagging someone as friend is not friendship. However, real friends will be there for you without any conditions. They are few , so you have to hold onto them.

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  6. I’m also socially awkward person. Who wants to stay in his shell. But I have few but true friends.

    For me A friend is someone with whom I can be myself.

    Though I have a good friends still I find hard to express myself to them.
    Recently I opened up about my past with my Best friend. It took a lot of time to do this.

    But after this I’ve realized that I should express myself .

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      1. I can feel you.
        Imagine , friend whom I shared about my past is my best friend from 4 years. 😂

        It’s not necessary to share your problems with your friend.

        Knowing that there is someone who will be there by your side is a great feeling .❤

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  11. That’s weird experience Adi😑
    According to me friendship is simple equation as below 👇

    Some gentle chattering 😊+some creepy jokes 😂+some punches & buries+some emotional blackmailing +*Butterfly effects (🦋) = FRIENDSHIP 👫👬👭
    (*Applicable for me only😉🦋)

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  14. For me, a friend is someone who accepts you for what you are, respects you and wants to spend time with you. They want to be allies in this sometimes harsh and cruel world and want to support each other through those hard times and help you spend some good times too.

    If there is no respect there is no friendship, merely acquaintance.

    🙂

    Good luck with your exams.

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  15. Friendship is the ship that saves us from drowning in the depth of salty sea of tears .
    – Akshaya Thulasi 🌼

    That’s really weird Adi !
    but why don’t you try to view it from your friend’s side . She won’t ask you to cut that friendship , just informed you that , can’t talk & spend time with you because of her exam . Then why you take it in such a manner . I think that friend is good , perfect & well mannered because she informed you before stopping contact with you for 3 months.

    Please endure me if you don’t like my opinion .

    Have a nice day Adithya 💙

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    1. Nice thoughts. But that’s not friendship yaar. If a person can’t give you 5 minutes from their schedule at least once a week then their just acquaintance not friends.

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      1. I think so too. It is just contact. Just a good morning or good night text would suffice. I don’t think a friend can be too busy to keep contact with you. Anyway, that is jut my opinion

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  16. I had a friend who changed friends every school term. I thought we had become so close only to discover the next term there was a new friend. That was way back in high school. We are still in contact and we laugh about it sometimes.

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  18. There’s this thing( I can’t call it a poem) I wrote to my (only) friend back then when she had to leave because her father had a transfer. I found it a month ago and saved it. It’s very bad and corny but I thought I would share it here… As the topic is friendship.

    I was a lonely bird until a few years ago
    Grand Pa was my only friend then, for he told me the most beautiful stories.

    I went to school alone and empty, wishing the day would end,
    I was eager to return home, to listen the new story awaiting me
    I found the stories livelier than the real world, for they never once judged me

    I used to check my watch all day, time felt like a burden I had to carry
    Then you came along, a second’s hand that added moments to my life.
    You knew it when I was upset, you also knew whether to intervene or to leave me to myself.

    I will miss the days walked at school & street together taking pride in our flaws
    Going around with our heads high, like we’re the Emperors of the world.
    I will miss you in the days when my shadow is the only thing that goes with me.

    I can’t believe that it’s time to part and 3 years, like 3 hours, somehow passed.
    Good luck with your life. There’s a long road waiting for me ahead
    And I can’t wait to walk back from the school alone.

    I know it’s atrocious ( I was a very bad writer ( still am)). But this was my experience.

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        1. No. I was worried ki you thought I was spamming. That’s not my intention at all. I thought I would embarass myself by sharing a piece I have written when I was a kid. I don’t know why but It sounded like a great idea in my head.

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          2. It is wonderful to see so many perspectives about friendship in one single place. In a way you made your audience the co-authors of this post. They all contributed to this post. That’s great. Because communities are awesome. And you built one in this small corner of the internet. Congrats!

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  19. I think mine’s just a problem ! my best friend is so irresponsible with my things to a point that I just can’t place where our friendship is at now? With everything just getting lost when amnt arnd and when she just seems like she don’t care & she doesn’t want to be asked about the lost items.

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  20. This is the important reason I scare a lot to get close with people..
    I have experienced and still experiencing these in my day today life.. It hurts !
    It takes time to take someone as a friend .. and not an exception in it.. after trusting them ..we love them unconditionally ..
    But if the concerned person takes decisions like this it ruptures the soul and ruins our nous ..
    But dont worry one day you will recieve the love you shown !
    Nice post dear ❤ 🙂

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      1. Don’t feel bad about it 🎁
        Open this gift box .. I’ve something for you!

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        💥💥Booooom that’s my love for you ❤ sis 😆😆
        Stay happy always 😚😅😆

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  21. Friendship is beautiful relationship…. I just believe making as much as friends possible out side the social network.. is suggestive.
    And having few friends in social will boost social world. But never try to go so close that your life is small compare to opposite … friends are friends… I love all my friends.. but parents are great friends… if parents aren’t good friends that’s a disastrous.. especially for youths..
    Parents then..i have few friends whom I met in train and bus.. festivals.. far always.. they inspire they remember.. just enjoy the true relationship which is divine.. nothing you should expect in turn.. only honestly and little naughty ness in friendship is Good.. enjoy ….

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  25. Seriously…. Tats not even close to friendship.. This is kinda weird.
    I believe friends have long talk and sleepless nights during exam times I never seen a friend who told me that he/she needs space for studying. If someone says so that’s not friendship at all

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  26. Well I’m good at making friends in few secs , but I never ditch mi friends for any reasons , & I get very close to ever1 wen I get into interaction .
    Aahaa !!!! I’m having a very best friend at the moment & I’m cmnting on her cmnt ri8 now 😉

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  28. I believe it is all about what “you” feel a friend should be… perhaps your friend had a different view of the relationship between the two of you… what if there were circumstances beyond her control, or your control, and you were unable to contact each other?… first your heart needs to establish what the relationship with another means, then you can put a label on it… 🙂

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      1. “Portrait of a Friend”

        I can’t give solutions to all of life’s problems, doubts,
        or fears. But I can listen to you, and together we will
        search for answers.

        I can’t change your past with all it’s heartache and pain,
        nor the future with its untold stories.
        But I can be there now when you need me to care.

        I can’t keep your feet from stumbling.
        I can only offer my hand that you may grasp it and not fall.

        Your joys, triumphs, successes, and happiness are not mine;
        Yet I can share in your laughter.

        Your decisions in life are not mine to make, nor to judge;
        I can only support you, encourage you,
        and help you when you ask.

        I can’t prevent you from falling away from friendship,
        from your values, from me.
        I can only think of you, talk to you and wait for you.

        I can’t give you boundaries which I have determined for you,
        But I can give you the room to change, room to grow,
        room to be yourself.

        I can’t keep your heart from breaking and hurting,
        But I can cry with you and help you pick up the pieces
        and put them back in place.

        I can’t tell you who you are or who you will be
        I can only love you and be your friend
        (Adam Clarke)

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  29. I feel sad for u …but one person can’t define or characterize frndship…..
    Yeah..I have also a bad experience abt frndship bcz I have lost someone who was very very close to me nd seemed that it will never break but …but one misunderstanding spoiled our relation like we want never meet each other….
    But other hand I have more very good experiences abt frndship ..bcz I have some very good frnds who always supports in my hard time nd never left me alone…
    I wish ..Have a lot of good frnds u too..😘😘

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  30. It was not a friendship at all adii which you experienced but you’ll definitely get a true best friend..i think true friends never judge us..they always accept us as we are and we can share anything without thinking once with them..they can guess our moods without our single word..i know its not easy to find such friends these days but I’m lucky to have one and i hope you’ll get your best friend soon..till then I’m always here for you adii😘😘☺️

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  31. Friendship can be so hard! I find as you get older, friendships comes and go… most of mine have gone and its so easy to think its because of you but its life… that’s life after all. A real friend though will always been there… no matter what the circumstances.

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  33. Nice post dear,
    Other than online friends I haven’t had any friends in a very long time as I’m a loner and don’t socialize but to me a friend is someone that gets you and is there to talk when you need to and helps you out the best they can.

    ❤️✌️
    BY FOR NOW

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  34. See every person is different. And they react differently in different situations. Just because somebody is nuce to talk to doesnot a friend make. Nor asking to be alone for sometime a friend unmake.
    By gods grace I have ad friends risking their lives to save me. I had friends who did wrong with me and then felt so guilty that they punished themselves.
    I had friends who sacrifised money time effort just to make me happy and then lived like themselves, not requiring my presence to be acknowledged.
    So on and so forth. So this person might really need some time.
    Another thing. You have to risk getting vulnerable yourself to make a friend. Open up maybe your personal space and get almost a free ticket to theirs’. But still the way, the pace the affection you need for a friendship varies again depending the person.
    And most of the timed you might get hurt. But thats the filter that segregates between a friend and not. Not all friends can be friendly in same way and not all friendly are friends.
    Just now I am beside a childhood friend. I flew from a different city to be with him just because I felt it. He did the same. And its not that easy when you are working away from home and most leaves you store for going home and stuff.
    Stay happy and experiment with your friends with you life. And pray for me and my friends to continue to experiment and enjoy with life forever.

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  36. For me it’s like, I do what makes me feel good, sometimes it’s like “u gotta have friends or you’re weird but why is that?” Just enjoy life, find people crazy like you and keep them, they should also care about you ofc and vice versa, and you know what friends do? They eat food 😋🍛🍱

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  37. Like a friend is someone with whom you don’t talk to or see on a daily basis but you still friends azin it’s not a must for you to talk daily for you to remain friends

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  40. I think true friendship is what happens when you actively want to be around a person and it feels easy. These things take time though.Well, for me it does anyway. My best friend is my sister, and I have known her for all my life.

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  41. I know how you feel. I once made a friend or I thought I did but she said this to me. I am busy now just getting my life together and I don’t have anything to give you so I wont answer your calls or return them. I felt like I had been hit in the guts.

    I found this beautiful poem on friendship so I could learn what a true friend is. It may help you.

    A friend will be there when you really need someone
    And will come to you when they need help
    A friend will listen to you even when they don’t understand
    Or agree with your feelings
    A friend will never try to change you
    But appreciates you for who you are
    A friend doesn’t expect too much or give too little
    A friend is someone you can share dreams, hopes and feelings with
    A friend is a person who you can think of and suddenly smile
    A friend doesn’t have to be told they are special
    Because they know you feel that way
    A friend will accept your attitudes ideas and emotions
    Even when their own are different and will hold your hand when you are scared
    A friend will be honest with you
    Even when it might hurt and will forgive you
    For the mistakes you make
    A friend can never disappoint you and will support you
    And share in your glory
    A friend shares responsibility when you have doubts
    A friend always remembers the little things you have done
    The times you have shared and the talks you’ve had
    A friend will bend over backwards to help you to pick up the pieces
    When your world falls apart..
    A friend is one of life’s most beautiful gifts. Luannn Auciello

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  43. To me, a friend is someone who will love and accept me for who I am, give me the room to be who I want to be because they know I want to experience life on my terms. It doesn’t always mean they are in my life, it just means they are a part of me. And the responsibility of having that type of friend means I give them the same.

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  44. Don’t feel bad about having only a few friends. There are different levels of friendship and the term is used pretty loosely. First you have acquaintance type “friends”. These are not very reliable when you actually need something but they’re fun to hang around and help break up the monotony of everyday life. You call them up to see a movie, have a few drinks and some good laughs. Then you have distant “friends”. These are people you were close with at one point but they have moved away or you’ve grown apart to some degree. You still have affection for each other and you don’t talk to them but every so often but when you do get together you pick up right where you left off. You attend their wedding, baby shower or any other important moment in their lives but you’re not really close enough to share your deepest darkest secrets. Lastly, you have best friends that are there for you through good times and hard times. Whenever you need them they are always there. They support you and love you enough to tell you the truth when you need to hear it. They help you through a death in the family, divorce and even help you move. They’ve seen you at your absolute worst and still love you. They know you very well and know things that no one else knows. Proverbs 18:24 says, “There are companions ready to crush one another,But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” When you really think about it, most people have a lot of acquaintance and distant type friends but you should have only a few best friends. I recently came across this cute video about what’s a real friend. Here’s a link: https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&docid=502013393&srcid=share

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  47. Wow I feel bad but that message from the “friend” was kind of funny, too. Sorry! But I would say that the issue was probably with them, not you. Don’t take it personal! I find the best way to make a friend is to go through some sort of experience together. That’s why, often times when people reminisce about their friends, it’s in context of memorable life events they went through, like winning sports together or getting into trouble together. I’m not saying you should find someone to get arrested with, but it would help you bond! 😀

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  49. Real friends will always be there and wouldn’t cut you off, ever, for anything, she wasn’t a real friend, but that doesn’t mean you’ll never have one, be yourself, and anyone who doesn’t love that should take the nearest door out, I love your article and the way you write, and I’m so new at this, please check out mine thank you ❤

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