Can you love someone deeply yet not enough?

I got a text from him last Friday saying that he’s going out for a while. He does this a lot and I’m fine with it. People do need their space but I just can’t believe that I accept it now. That people need space. I never thought that you needed breaks from people you love. Maybe I still don’t believe that.

When we met yesterday after his break, he looked the same, he loved the same and he smiled at me while he took his first sip of coffee and said it needed more sugar just like always. But. . . .

Can you love someone and not love them just enough? Unfortunately I think it’s possible. That’s what we were. He loved me but just not enough to hold me close. We just had a brief conversation and I was silent mostly. And when he thought something might be off he asked me what is going on with me? I chose not to reply and I just asked him something

Did you miss me while you were away? Did you miss me at all? He didn’t say anything for a while and just continued to stare into my face, motionless. He loves his space, his solitude, he loves him more. And I can’t do that, I can’t be the person who loves someone more than myself and be with a person who loves themselves more than me. Because it just feels so unfair.

Can someone love you but not love you enough?
Yes. . . . .! And yes . . . . . . It’s painful!



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36 thoughts on “Can you love someone deeply yet not enough?

  1. Thank you for sharing!.. perhaps you are wanting more out of a relationship than he is willing to give, at least at this time or perhaps never will… πŸ™‚

    β€œIf you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.” Richard Bach

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    1. Wise words, though we are never someone else’s property. I too love my space and so does my husband. We just need these little spaces and then be together and enjoy the little pleasures of life: a promenade in the nature, music, etc. It seems to work fine with us. Wish it would work with other people. πŸ™

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      1. I don’t believe the intent were to imply that one is someone else’s property… πŸ™‚ what is important is what works for you and your husband, it may not work for someone else… πŸ™‚

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        1. ❀️❀️❀️ Stay strong, Adithya! Think and do what is best for you. Is it worth to keep this relationship where there seems to be a lack of communication? What do you really want? What does he want? You asked him if he missed you and he stayed there motionless. What is this telling you?

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        1. Sometimes we hope too much. We always hope that things turn out the way we want them to be and we won’t accept it until everything screams in on our face that it isn’t like that. Until the moment he lets me know that he doesn’t miss me there’s a chance that I might still be convinced that he do miss me and I will still continue the things as they were which would be unfair for me.

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